You know that friend? The one who you like, admire, and secretly wish you could be, especially on the mornings when your coffee maker breaks and you realize you left the laundry with your cute jeans in the washer overnight? The one who somehow smiles even in the hardest times, and looks great for her age, despite her van full of kids?
Yeah that one.
Doesn’t it seem unfair? How does she pull that all off anyway? I felt it was high time to even out the score for all us coffeeless, wet-jeans, hard-working women out there. So here’s what I’ve collected from years of struggling with my own insecurity and observing how the “perfect” moms and coworkers live their lives. It boils down to this:
To be that person, we have to think and act like her.
- she forgives
- she smiles
- she thanks people
- she does what she loves
- she spends time with people who give back
- she learns
- she sleeps enough
- she doesn’t take criticism personally
- she looks for the best in others
- she knows how to say no
- she lets herself off the hook
- she laughs
- she plays with friends and family
- she does nothing when it’s a day to recharge
- she let’s herself be a mess occasionally
- she lets others be that way too
- she knows her own strengths
- she chooses to trust trustworthy people
- she asks for what she needs
- she takes responsibility for her feelings
- she looks for solutions instead of focusing on challenges
- she makes time for herself daily
- she has realistic expectations
- she sees herself in a bigger context of life and relationships
- she doesn’t compare herself to you or me because we all have enough trouble of our own
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do, and that often means living outside the limits of one’s comfort zone.” – Jeff Olson
When we’re feeling down about who we are and what we’re doing in life, are we willing to step back and choose to think and feel different…. so we can be different? So we can be that amazing, confident, joyful person we envy?
You are that person, you know. Deep down. Will you let that amazing you out so you can enjoy life?