What if that thing you daily take for granted wasn’t around?
I thought about that this morning as I wished my hubby happy birthday. We snuggled up together and prayed for the day. As we ate breakfast, we thanked God for the food. As Gary left for work, he asked me to pray for a big meeting later on. All these things seem so normal to us.
For some couples, though, shared beliefs aren’t the norm. It’s a deep personal connection I – and probably many of us – take for granted, but is sorely longed for in many homes across the world.
Today it’s my joy to introduce you to someone who’s heart is to support those couples. Chris Moss is an author, speaker and teacher who longs to see couples with differing beliefs enjoy long, wonderful marriages despite faith differences. Enjoy what she shares here, and check out the great giveaway she’s offering at the end!
Q: Chris, please tell us a little about you and your family.
I am a Christian woman, wife, mom to three adults, stepmom to three more adults, grandmother of three (with one on the way!). I am a Mentor Mom in MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers), a teacher of Purpose Driven Life and I am called to set women free. I am married to Ed–the love of my life–who happens to be Jewish.
I knew what scripture said about being unequally yoked when I courted and married him, but I did it anyway. It wasn’t until years later that I saw the wisdom of scripture and realized my life had become a series of little compromises that seldom honored me, my husband or my commitment to God all at the same time.
Q: What challenge(s) led you to write your book?
In Christian circles I most often attended alone because my husband did not attend. In social circles, I was with my husband, but as a Christian, I often felt alone. I realized that like Jesus, I was between two worlds.
I did not belong with a singles group and I did not belong in a married group without my husband. I was “spiritually single.”
Every study I attended–even if I had heard it before at a different time in my life–began to teach me God’s lessons through the lense of a spiritually single wife. It led to more questions: How do I love Christ and my husband? How do I create a place where I belong? How do I honor God without turning my husband off? I believed if I found answers to those questions, I needed to share them with other women like me, make friends, get together, become free, and create a place to help other spiritually single wives with similar struggles.
Q: What do you feel makes being spiritually single so hard?
Three things make being spiritually single difficult for me:
- Watching while my husband’s struggles and knowing that God is reaching out with amazing tools to help him…but he does not have eyes to see or ears to hear. He must rely on himself when God has so much to offer–that is simply the hardest for me.
- Functioning day after day with little or no spiritual affirmation from the man I love.
- Focusing on #1 and/or #2. I don’t want to create an environment that breeds anguish, loneliness, unmet expectations, or frustration. Those emotions can be there sometimes, but I don’t want to LIVE there. I have the choice to filter them through the Word of God so that I can be the best ambassador of Christ to my husband and family and bring glory to God.
Q: How’s God using your book to help others?
On my website are several abbreviated testimonials from women who share how the book and class have changed their lives. God changed things, my book was just a simple tool. But knowing the women behind those testimonials has changed me! The most amazing results of writing the book is finding women like me who just need a little encouragement and friendship from another Christian.
Teaching the classes and watching women linger afterward to find friendship on a spiritual level with other spiritually single wives tells me we have created our own place to belong. No judgment, no expectation. Just encouragement and kindness from someone who, like themselves, knows how they live and loves and accepts them. Truly a gift!
Q: Anything else you want to share?
For anyone in the San Diego area, I am hosting a “Happy Birthday Jesus!” party on Tuesday, December 6th at 9 am. Bring a breakfast dish to share, an ornament for an exchange (white elephant encouraged), and a friend. Message me on Facebook for location.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us, Chris. You’re bringing hope and help to marriages so they can thrive, and it’s wonderful to hear how God’s using your ministry!
- One book will go to the first question for Chris – here or on Moms Together.
- One will go to the 50th comment on Moms Together.
- One book will be given to a randomly drawn name from those who sign up for Chris’s email newsletter at her site. Be sure to leave a comment on today’s post at her site to let her know you signed up from Moms Together or Living Power so she knows!