Thoughts on Saggy Bodies and Loving All Our Quirks

Warning to my male readers: Move along… this one’s for the ladies.

If you weren’t on Moms Together on Wednesday, you missed one heck of a conversation. Some very poignant and hilarious takes on our bodies after baby, and what happens as we age.

A comment by Carla Williams in response to a reader’s frustration with her skin and body quirks captured my attention. She said,

Take a look at your family–your mom, your grandmother, your aunts–now look in the mirror.”

Sadly, I don’t have any elder family females living nearby. And my mirror’s a liar. Many of you can probably relate. 

In the absence of daily interaction with women we love and admire, whose bodies are appropriately saggy and whose skin reveals time’s passing, we’ve lost touch with what a real, live woman looks like as she ages. We’re left instead with our buddies, Ms. Glamour and Mrs. Don’t You Wish You Looked Like Sharon Stone?

I made this video before the conversation on Moms Together. At the time, it never occurred to me to consider my physical quirks with the tools I share here. Probably because it hits a lot closer to home! Once I did, however, I realized how much hurt lurks in me around (emphasis on round) that issue. How much I’d lost sight of the strengths – like being able to participate in the creation of life – in favor of fussing over the quirks like stretch marks and a poochy mid-section.

All of us have quirks. Be they saggy boobs or the tendency to over-analyze situations. The lie is that they’re wrong, bad and ugly. The truth is that you are, in fact, made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26). It’s up to each one of us to figure out how that works.

So, as you watch this video, challenge yourself to go beyond the initial ideas that come to mind. Give God the space to blow your mind with just how fearfully and wonderfully made you really are!

What will you write on your post-it? Step out in faith and share it below or over on Moms Together so we can all support each other!


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  1. says

    Yep, Rachel's comment is hilarious… and so true!

    Melinda – how did you start to change the way you approached your daughter? I think a lot of people get “stuck” in the quirkiness because they don't even know how to begin.

  2. says

    This is great, Laurie! I can so relate because my oldest daughter is definitely an “outside the box” girl. I used to try to get her to be something that God didn't design her to be. Once I started trying to encourage her gifts and the way God made her, our relationship got much better.

    Hoping we can get that first phone call in next week. Tuesday or Wednesday would work for me. 🙂 Let me know.

    Glad to see you've connected with Rachel (above). She's definitely up for forming our little group! 🙂

  3. says

    I am amazed at your wisdom as a mom of young kids. I also love how you focus on strengths, and I will be thinking about mine more!

    You are doing a wonderful job communicating on your blog! Thank you. (Found you at 5 minutes for special needs.)

  4. Michelle Neely says

    Cracking up at what the above woman posted, “I'm grateful that I'm made in God's image—it's proof he's got a sense of humor!” LOVE IT!

  5. says

    I never thought I'd have trouble aging. I always thought I'd be fine with whatever age I reached and whatever wrinkles I earned.

    Such is not the case.

    Suddenly I'm all about anti-aging creams and whatnot. It's freaking me out! Fortunately, I was chubby before I had kids, so it's not like I'm lamenting losing my figure. lol I'm grateful that I'm made in God's image—it's proof he's got a sense of humor!