Standing with those who are hurting

Something a little different today. From the depths of my heart on behalf of my daughter, whose struggle with her foster-child past still causes heartbreak today. This is for my precious, grieving A.

How long will you carry those words?
The ones that hurt you
pile high your shame
shrink your heart?

How long will you hold them?
Words that smudge your beauty
crush your courage
eclipse life’s light in your eyes?

Will you let go?
Give them to One
The One who knows true you?
Who counts precious each hair,
each tear tumbling down.

His words give life
Will you let go of death-words?
Drop them to dissolve in dust
With the one who’s lies cheat your joy?

Believe His words instead.

“For I know the thoughts I think towards you, says the Lord, Thoughts to prosper and not harm you. To give you a future and a hope.” 

Do you love someone who is struggling emotionally? How do you maintain encouraging and supporting them in healthy ways over the long haul? 


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  1. says

    I was just at a parent conference where they were explaining the new programming that has been put in place to educate about bullying in all forms. They talked a lot about how words hurt. Its so different than when I grew up. People were told to just shake off the words, but they made me feel ashamed and small.
    I am glad that the world is changing.

  2. says

    Becky – your girl and mine walked a similar road of hurt. Such a very long road it is… still is… for our girls.

    Melinda – I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Praying for healing for the trauma-wounds on his thoughts and body – for God's hand of peace and restoration.

  3. says

    Very moving poem, Laurie. I pray that His Words will be a balm of healing in you daughter's life.

    Dark paths are very painful to tread. Alone, they seem impossible to navigate. A pair or a group seems to bring a sense of momentum despite the heaviness of despair. Or at least that has been my experience.

    Our son was recently assaulted. He is healing physically but we're traveling down a dark road, too.

    Gotta keep moving.

    May God bring increased strength to you.

  4. says

    I love this poem. I watch my girls struggle with this same feeling. Especially Z who has gone through 7 homes before coming to us. I can see her wanting to believe she is worth keeping and loving but still not fully getting it because of all the rejection she's been through. All I know to do is keep telling her how worthy she really is and show her that by sticking with her forever. Praying for your precious kiddos.

  5. says

    Thank you all for the support and love in your comments! It's such a tough place to walk in the dark with someone who is heartbroken. But we have to keep trying…. And having people around to help me keep going is a big part of that!

  6. says

    The old poem says, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.” But that's not true. The bruises heal from sticks and stones. The wounds from words are invisible, deep and extremely painful. I am praying for your precious one that Jesus will bind up and heal the wounds that words inflicted upon her as only He can! Thank you for loving your precious wounded girl! Love you!!