Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children, and no theories. ~John Wilmot
Nothing changes us like parenthood. It’s reduced me to a bumbling blathering idiot more times than I can count. My house is a mess, even if it’s clean. My kids have recurring amnesia about rules and responsibilities. It takes a lot to stay proactive as a parent because we live in the reactive milieu of no-it’s-not-morning-yet-so-please-stop-waking-me-up-at-4-a.m.
Which is why I’m thrilled to feature a friend and her new devotional-style book today! Carey Scott is an inspirational speaker and fellow Moms Together team member. She’s got a handful of kids, a heart-full of wisdom and will make you laugh like crazy in her new book, Let’s Get Real: Raising Godly Kids.
We chatted on the phone earlier this week and here’s what she shared:
Laurie: Hi Carey, how are you?
Carey: I’m clean. That’s a good day! (she laughs)
L: Your book Let’s Get Real: Raising Godly Kids just released. How has the process been to write your first book?
C: This journey has rocked my world. It has opened up so much crud about where I am and I keep thinking “I just told people my parenting and what if they hate it??” I’m all about being vulnerable and sharing, but this is like vulnerable on steroids. I keep thinking “nobody’s going to think this is good. What if they read it and say, ‘I could get these ideas off a cereal box!'” When it hit Amazon, I was scared and raw and vulnerable…. that’s just my issue – feeling worthy.
L: How’d you get through that fear?
C: I felt God saying back to me, “Even if nobody reads this book, you were obedient. If nobody finds value, you were obedient. This is your life, your journey and you’re wiser on the other side of it. I’ve called you to share that with women with younger kids, newer to the faith, maybe they don’t know…. isn’t that what I’ve called you to do in the Bible? Pass on wisdom to the younger women you know?”
And I realize, I AM an authority in my own struggles as a parent. I can speak on my parenting and my family. That freed me up a tremendous amount. It’s a weird thing, I’m probably in one of the toughest stages in my personal life, working through some past struggles, and add to that putting out ideas about my parenting and it’s the perfect storm. In that is God, and He’s given me the confidence and strength and insight and resources. Actually… I think it’s a divine setup!
L: (Laughs) Tell us more about that “divine setup.”
C: He knows me enough to know it’s not going to take 1-2 things to motivate me, it would take a storm to get me to look at some things. To overcome some fears and do things I could put off and hedge around for a long time.
L: Who do you want most to have this book?
C: Everyone. I wish I would have known this younger, earlier in the journey. It’s a valuable tool for young moms, new moms, and those about to be moms. But it’s also for moms new to their faith at any stage of parenting, and for each of us as we face new phases of parenting.
L: What was your favorite part to write?
C: The chapter on speaking a blessing over your children – I’m just coming into the understanding of how powerful our words are, when we release something in to the atmosphere it’s not just effecting our kids, it’s like we’re calling it into our midst. words are powerful and i love the idea of speaking life and power and affirmation over our kids as they leave for school. I was not raised in a home where words were spoken over me in a positive way. I wonder what my life would have been like if someone has spoken life over me and let me know how valuable I was.
L: If you could give a bit of encouragement to women here, what would it be?
C: We all operate in these lies that keep us complacent and keep us from doing what God wants us to do. I want to challenge women to run out there and face it because Greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world. And that my favorite quote would be true for each of us: When I wake up in the morning and put my feet on the ground, I want the enemy to say “Oh crap, she’s awake.”
If this is the first you’ve heard of Carey Scott, you’ve gotta check her out! As she says on her site, she’s excited to help women “stop living a mediocre, risk-free life and instead step onto the battlefield and engage!” Check out her website and blog. Connect with her on Facebook. And find her new book here!
Thanks so much, Carey, for sharing your heart here, and for pouring your experience and humor through your book so we can all manage the changes of parenting with grace and purpose.
What wisdom would YOU share if you had the chance to write your own book on parenting? What would have helped you as a new mom or a new believer at any stage of parenting? Leave your comments here or at my facebook page to enter for a free copy of Carey’s new book! Winner will be selected Monday 4/9.