It’s not going to get easier. So, what now?

“In this world, you will have trouble. . .” – Jesus, in John 16:33

It will never get easier.

There. I said it.

If you’re not hiding under a rock someplace, if you’re engaging the world and relationships in any way—especially if you’re pressing in to a God-sized dream—life gets harder, not easier.

Don’t believe me? Ask your tween or teen daughter. She’ll be happy to roll her eyes at you and complain she has to do so much more than her preschool-aged sister does around the house. Or go back to a month after your wedding, when you discovered the dress, invitations, and table favors we NOT, in fact, the most difficult choices you’d face in life.

Yes, relationships will grow, and with them bring both joy and new challenges. The God-sized dream in your heart will unfold in wonder, and with it bring fresh questions about your purpose and value. Your children will grow and celebrate milestones, and edge closer to life outside your daily influence. Or they’ll struggle (as our older two do) with a special need that with each new season brings fresh hope, but often grief, too.

With each new day, new interaction, new challenge, life will get a little clearer—YOU will become a little clearer. And, if the heart is still and willing to see, God gets clearer, too.

Whatever it is you’re facing or pursuing, the “it” will get more familiar. You will feel stronger about it. Your skills will grow. You’ll have more perspective. You’ll have wisdom and encouragement to share with friends on similar journeys.

But easier? Not going to happen.

Because the “it” that’s stretching you? It’s part of you now. It’s woven in to your day, your thinking, your relationships, and your dreams. It is part of your life, for better or worse, and there’s no going back.

So what will you choose? Better or worse?

Grow or shrink?

Pine for an easier life, or trust that right smack in the middle of the hard stuff, God will give you everything you need?

As Wesley said so well in The Princess Bride, “Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something.”

In this world you—we—will have trouble. It’s a promise, whether we’re watching our God-sized dreams unfold, or wondering which way is up after a loss.

“. . . but take heart {be courageous}!” Says the One who’s been there, too,* “for I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

It’s never going to get easier, this life. But that’s okay. Because beauty comes from the hard. Diamonds emerge from the pressing.

With love from one diamond-in-the-making to another,


*see Hebrews 4:15

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  1. new in MA says

    Thanks for putting it up there! those are the things we dont just go out and say….Laliv.

    • says

      Worth their wait. . . so true. I wonder if they feel that way too? I think they’re probably annoyed at becoming diamonds like we sometimes get :).

  2. elisedalyparker says

    Truth…It’s hard! But the refining process, the hard stuff, they really do perfect and eventually shine.

  3. Susantks says

    Beautiful! Thanks for sharing your heart once again, Laurie. Thanks for encouraging all of us.

  4. alecia says

    Oh, how I love comfortable and easy and have to remind myself when things get hard, that God didn’t promise easy and didn’t make us for comfortable. And because of those stretching moments I’m a different person, and wouldn’t want it any other way!

    • says

      He didn’t make us for comfortable – yep. That about sums it up! And I love that even though he promises life will be tough, He does promise easy in one way: that as we lean in to Him and take up His yoke… it will be “easy” and lift our weariness. Something I need to remind myself of daily!

  5. Rosanne says

    This is just what I needed to read. Lately, I’ve been really weary and I want easy, but at the same time easy leaves me feeling incomplete and restless, too. Thanks for this! 🙂

    • Rosanne says

      Um, that’s not my picture in the avatar – just so you know. I’m not sure WHO that is! lol

      • says

        It’s my old one… so at least that mystery is solved :). And I know what you mean about easy making you restless. I think we were born for epic lives and even though they tire us out, easy just doesn’t quite cut it!

  6. says

    This is tremendous, Laurie. Just love the quote from the Princess Bride-what a great movie that was!

    I really appreciate your analogy that as we go back to things we thought were so hard—making decisions for our wedding—they grow smaller in hindsight. However, that still doesn’t keep us from acting like disgruntled children sometimes. 🙂

    I’ll put another picture now into my mental album-one of me being pressed on all sides, but slowly becoming a diamond. Thanks so much for the encouragement!

    • says

      I’ve had that quote from Princess Bride hanging around my mind for about a year. It was glad to finally find a home around here! 🙂 And the diamond analogy, when you mention it in light of the hard-pressed idea…. makes me wonder if that’s what God meant? That the reason we’re hard pressed but not crushed is that, with Him, we become the toughest substance on earth.

  7. Mel says

    So much Truth here…and I’ve tried to remind myself daily that this isn’t always going to be easy while remaining intentional about enjoying the journey. It works sometimes. 🙂 What a great reminder that the refining and purifying He does is to bring something even more beautiful. Love this post…blessings, friend! 🙂

  8. says

    I love that you quoted Princess Bride!! One of our favorite movies around here, and very often quoted by all of us!! This is such a good reminder, Laurie! This sentence really stood out to me, “In this world you—we—will have trouble. It’s a promise, whether we’re watching our God-sized dreams unfold, or wondering which way is up after a loss…beauty comes from the hard”

    God is so good, to give us that beauty, those treasures that can only be wrought deep in the darkness of suffering, and which shine so brightly when finally brought out into the Light.

    • says

      “treasures. . . wrought deep in the darkness of suffering” – that’s beautifully said, Amy. I bet we’ll all be surprised to see the gems and sparkles all over us when we get home to heaven someday!