- Discover more about yourself. How you respond gives you a clue about what matters to you, your level of belief in what you’re doing, and how confident you are as a person.
- Discover more about the other person. What they share and how they share their opinions gives clues to what the other person likes, wants and finds valuable.
- Delve into your strengths, instead of defend weaknesses. Our first instinct is to defend. But what if we allow criticism long enough to look it in the eye and come away with more wisdom and understanding about what we’re good at and what, truly, still needs work?
- Change behavior or shift direction toward something better. Many times in my life, criticism from a trusted source has saved me from doing something I’d regret. I’m grateful for those timely changes in direction, and for those who have the courage to be honest with me in life!
- Spend time looking, listening, and seeking the truth. With all we’re doing, it’s easy to miss truths that come from the kinds of pauses created by solid critique.
- Be humble… which ultimately leads to having honor in your life, work, and relationships.
- Build bridges. Responding graciously opens the door for deeper relationship with those we love and respect. After all, how far can you go with another if they’re never able to disagree with you?
- Know when a relationship is unhealthy. If the other person constantly criticizes, it may be time to set some healthy boundaries.
- Be grateful… that people notice what you’re doing, and care enough to see you do it well.
It’s easy to recoil when someone criticizes. Much harder to face it head-on and find the jewel that lies within. Will you make that hard choice next time someone confronts you with criticism? The choice to learn, grow, and press ever stronger into your strengths and calling as you receive their feedback? Friend, that attitude will open doors you never imagined possible!